Lies I Never Knew About Mum

God breaking chains.

Photo sourced from CreationSwap.com, by Marian Trinidad.

I could hardly listen in church on Sunday.

I posted last Thursday about how I’m afraid I’m selfish. Three days later, Dad (who’s just started moonlighting as an assistant minister when he’s not farming) preached a sermon on identity. More specifically, on how our identity in God motivates us to do good works, rather than a sense of duty.

The topic of good works has been hard for me lately; I feel torn in two directions. On the one hand, I look at my life and fear that I don’t serve enough. On the other, I don’t want to serve out of guilt, and I don’t want to have to fit another activity into my schedule. I’m praying that God will show me what to do, but at the same time I’m afraid that I’m a selfish Christian.

My Mum and I had a conversation about the sermon on the way home from church, and when I said I’m afraid that I’m selfish, Mum laughed. (She did it nicely. Feeling guilt has always been an issue for me, and she’s used to hearing about it.)

She told me I’m not selfish. And said she gets a similar thing, but her insecurity is different. It flared up at the start of the year when she was asked to lead a Bible study.

But before I share more, there’s three things you should know about my Mum:

1. She is very wise, and has always given me great advice;

2. She’s always been good at working with kids and teenagers and explaining things in a way they’ll understand; and,

3. She loves God and I’ve seen her sacrifice what she wanted to follow His plan instead.

To me, this sounds like an ideal combination for a Bible study leader. But this is what ran through her head when she was asked to lead a group of Year 12 girls:

You’re not smart. You can’t lead that group. Those kids will see straight through you.

You see, when Mum was a kid she changed schools a few times and had major gaps in her education. Her teachers never caught her up on the material she missed, and so she struggled with schoolwork till she graduated. One teacher called her dumb to her face.

Now, I know my Mum is actually quite an intelligent person.  But ever since that teacher said those careless words, she’s had a voice in her head repeating them.

But when she told me her insecurity, I laughed too. The thought that she’s not smart enough is just as ridiculous to me, as the thought that I’m selfish is to her.

Thankfully, Mum ignored her insecurity when it flared up six months ago and trusted God instead. She took on that Bible study group and one of the girls recently made a commitment to God. Mum is also aware of the devil’s plot, and is trusting God to help her. Yet that voice is still often in the background.

I can relate. I’ve also been aware of my tendency toward guilt since the Great Inner Turmoil of 2009. And God’s been helping me with it, but the devil still tries to use it against me again and again. And he does it because it works; it’s my weak spot. But as soon as Mum and I said our thoughts out loud to one another, the spell was broken. We could see them for what they were — manipulative lies.

It made me think, how many things run through my head and get me down … and they’re just nonsense?

My family.

Dad took this photo of us kids and Mum last year. L-R; Jack, me, Mum, Abby (on Mum’s lap), Bek and Jake.

I think we all have these weak spots. And I know I get surprised when the devil tries to use mine against me a second time. “Haven’t I outgrown that?” I think. The fact that I’m facing the same issue again makes me think that the solution I found the first time round must be flawed. I must have missed something. So I need to find it. And the merry-go-round starts again.

But no, Mum and I shared our insecurities and knew we hadn’t missed a thing. We knew what was right and what was not. The devil was just trying to psych us out. 

What does this tale tell us?

First, if you face an issue you’ve faced before, don’t get freaked out by it. You might not need more answers; you might just need to remember the ones God already gave you. Give it time, and the feeling could pass away.

Second, the devil is a tricky mutt who likes to use our insecurities against us. Recognise them. Fight them. It’s God’s power working through us that accomplishes anything anyway; our flaws just shine a light on Him even more.

Third, talking about the crazy thoughts in your head is helpful.

Last week, I posted about Matthew 7 and how I was taking my questions to God. I think I just got one of my answers.

 

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4 comments

  1. Thanks for this, really helpful! Gideon in the Bible is a classic example of what you are talking about. God says he is a mighty warrior, but Gideon thinks he is no good. The irony is that when you read the story you see the real Gideon, he has servants (he is from an important family) and he tells an angel to wait where he is while he goes to cook a meal (he’s the only person in the Bible to tell an angel what to do apart from God, now that’s confidence). May we all see ourselves in the way God sees us.

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    1. Definitely. We tend to forget who we are … yes, we’re very weak and limited, but we have a ridiculously powerful God who’s working through us! I’ve been thinking about Eph 3:16-21:

      “I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.
      And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
      Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever!” (NIV)

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  2. Thanks for this post. It is always a struggle when one realises that there is no guilt to then fight of motivations of guilt. I think we naturally tend to be motivated by guilt especially in the West but that’s the radical nature of the gospel. My identity in Christ is more important than anything else. Other thing may explain me but they don’t define me. Shot!

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